What to do when you fail to find yourself!

What does finding yourself even mean? The greatest and most important adventure of our lives is discovering who we really are. Yet, so many of us walk around either not really knowing or listening to an awful inner critic that gives us all the wrong ideas about ourselves.

Finding yourself may sound like an inherently self-centered goal, but it is actually an unselfish process that is at the root of everything we do in life. In order to be the most valuable person to the world around us, the best partner, parent etc, we have to first know who we are, what we value and, in effect, what we have to offer.

You’re creating your story every day and each day you have a chance to start a new chapter. You can’t erase what has happened, but you can change the way you’re perceiving what has happened.

It’s time to know you and those who know me I always pen down an article when I have experienced it . Today I know who I am and I am living my life the way I want I am content and ready to phase anything in life . Below are the points which I did to be who I am now . Shall we begin ?? Let’s go

1. Don’t limit your beliefs


I’m scared to travel alone ,what if something happens? I won’t start a blog, what if no one reads it? I won’t start a blog, what if someone I know reads it (worst case scenario)? Last but not least, I can’t join a gym, what if someone laughs at me?” Yes, God forbid you do all those things, feel better about yourself for going after the life you want and start using your full potential.

Why don’t you change those questions into something like – what if you start traveling alone and schedule your time according to your interests and meet some great people along the way?
What if you start a blog and somehow attain heights . Imagine having a job you actually enjoy. I know, crazy.
What if you join a gym, gain strength and build confidence?

PS : When it comes to gym I am the one laziest Lass but I have finally started not gym but other forms of exercises like swimming , playing badminton 🏸 and cycling . So choice is yours I can only share what I have done.

A lot of times when we want to do something, way before being judged by other people, we are being judged by ourselves.There is going to be this little part of our ego (not our subconscious because deep down we know we are able to do absolutely everything) that is going to try and stop us. And you should accept that part. Thank that part for worrying about you, but then stand up for yourself and ask yourself is it worth it.

Is it worth it to listen to that voice that is afraid of everything and everyone and let it stop you from creating your best life ?And then be excited about what’s to come when you step out of your comfort zone and go after the life you want.

2. Those other people

There are a few things I’d like to mention when it comes to other people and finding yourself.
First, surround yourself only with the people who make you feel good. There’s no point in keeping people who are not on the same frequency in your life. Yes, it may be hard at first but sometimes we just outgrow some people, and that’s okay. If you want to go further in life, get rid of everything/everyone pulling you back or wanting you to stay in the same place because it’s convenient for them. Always make yourself a priority.

And a thing number 2, always remember that you have complete control over your reactions. When someone says something negative or isn’t supportive of your passions in life, accept it. And then move on with your day. Fighting and worrying about other people’s opinion is only weighing you down. No matter the situation you find yourself in – don’t let it ruin your day.

3. FINDING yourself

Are you willing to go from point A – where you are currently, to point B – where you want to be? Are you going to be strong enough to put yourself as a priority? I mean, it takes courage.

I don’t like a question: ”What would you do if this were your last day?” I always thought: “Well, if this would be my last day then there’s nothing much I could do in 24 hours… I’d probably eat pizza and watch Netflix my favourite Gossip girl .

What I want you to ask yourself is – what would you do if this were your last life? How would you spend it? The moment we realize something is ”the last one”, whether it is your last day in a foreign city, last episode of a new TV show you were binging, last page of a book, last song on a new album you were listening to for the first time – we appreciate it so much more.

My motive is to make you understand ,Don’t look back on your life and think how many opportunities and new experiences you could have had if only you were willing to take action towards something and challenge yourself. Don’t limit yourself. Get out of the victim mode, get out of your comfort zone, take control over your life and start living it what all has happened in the past stays in the past you have whole life ahead .

All the best !




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