It’s possible to be a lot of things without realising it. You can be inadvertently witty, or accidentally funny. You might even be so nice, with zero effort at all. But it’s also possible to be mean/ bad without realizing it.
Confused ? Read below points . I am writing this on the basis of my personal experience.
1. Waiting Around For People To Approach You
Think about all the times you’ve gone to a party, or a friend of a friend’s house, and proceeded to stand in the corner .While that’s totally your prerogative, think about how it looked to other people. If you left wondering why no one spoke to you, it could be because you didn’t talk to them,not approaching other people can make you seem mean — even if that couldn’t be further from the truth.
2. Being Blunt While talking
How blunt are you, on a scale from one to 10? If you really let people have it don’t be surprised if they’ve labeled you as mean, weird etc . Even though it’s not your job to make everyone happy, it is important to occasionally edit what you say.
3.Letting Your Impatience Get The Best Of You
The next time you feel the urge to be impatient think twice. People who are not patient… come across as mean,Their impatience gets interpreted as anger, agitation, and it is certainly no fun to be in the presence of such personalities.
Think someone behind you in line got all cranky and you’ll know exactly what I mean.
4. Not Taking The Time To Listen
Everyone wants to be heard and understood failing to do so because you’re not listening can cause people to view you as kind of rude.
5.Hiding The “Real” You
People want to get to know the real you .So if you hardly ever open up, friends and partners may start to view you as cold and standoffish. “Talking about your feelings and being vulnerable lets people relate to you and allows for people to get close, rather than just being distracted or dismissed by your mannerisms or perceived attitude.
It may take some practice, but it is a skill worth having. We all say let’s not take care what people think about you and I completely second that perhaps this statement is valid when you are not doing anything wrong henceforth when society talks let it talk but when we lack somewhere don’t you think It’s time to work on ourselves.
That’s all for today .